I’ve been telling friends for years that I wanted to get to Alaska before all the glaciers melted. I was concerned that climate change would irrevocably change the possibilities of what I would see there.
I first encountered a glacier up close and personal when I was fourteen years old. Our family met up with an aunt and uncle in western Canada. I don’t remember exactly where the glacier was, but I remember us standing practically at the foot of it, talking with each other while this craggy wall of ice loomed behind us. Or maybe it’s more accurate to say that I remember the photo that was taken of us talking there. I’m not really sure I recall being there. The wall of ice is behind us, but we’re focused on each other.
I find irony here. So often when we visit someplace, we spend as much time focused on each other as we do on the place we have traveled to. I’ve been blogging about my recent impactful trip to Greenland and Arctic Canada for over a month now—and I could go on, and on. I learned so much by traveling to these places that are vastly different from the desert where I live—and much of what I learned was from taking time, in those places, to talk with the people alongside me.
Some of them, of course, were the Inuit whose homelands we traversed. The most prominent of our Inuit expedition team members was the first female prime minister of Greenland, Aleqa Hammond. Another “big name” was Tom Paddon, the son of a doctor who cared for the Inuit in Labrador. Tom now works with the mining industry to “successfully reconcile the commercial interests of developers with the rights of Indigenous peoples.”
For me, as a writer and editor, the most intriguing and surprising team member was the novelist and poet Margaret Atwood. She has traveled on Adventure Canada ships for years, often as an expedition team member—and if her name isn’t familiar, it’s likely that her most famous book is: The Handmaid’s Tale. She gave a talk provocatively entitled Ask Me Anything and read from her new memoir, which officially launched a week ago. It was a pleasure to hear her speak about writing and about the impact of her time in the arctic on her life and her art.
When Mom and I signed up for this trip, I didn’t focus on the possibility of seeing glaciers. I was focused on traveling with Mom to places she hadn’t been that were of interest to both of us. We got that—and we got glaciers (as you can see in the image above), the Torngat Mountains, and so much more. I’m deeply grateful for the opportunity to travel to faraway places and humbled by how much there is to see and learn on this precious Mother Earth.
I’m also aware of how much I could learn from the people who live right here in Tucson. There’s a great folklife festival here called Tucson Meet Yourself. I went this year and had a lovely conversation with a young Indigenous woman selling earrings she’d crafted herself. Such events remind me that I don’t have to travel halfway across the globe to have meaningful conversations—though I won’t find any glaciers here in southern Arizona!
What about travel is most impactful for you?


Shirin, I had never thought about one of the effects I’ve discovered from the death of a longtime partner or spouse: I don’t want to return to places that once I had so relished visiting with my late wife. Consuelo and I traveled to many places in Mexico. My family is now wanting to assemble someplace in Mexico and I’ve agreed to help with the planning. Suddenly I find that Oaxaca, San Miguel, Guanajuato, Guadalajara and Zacatecas are off my list, not because I think they’re poor choices but because just the names conjure up the terrific times Consuelo and I had there. And I fear that those memories of superb past visits with great food and interesting people will corrupt my return. It’s not a direct answer to your question, Shirin, but it has an important relation to it.
I hear you, Tom. Sometimes places and people become inextricably intertwined, and it feels best to keep them that way. It can be hard to explain to others. Blessings on navigating this conundrum with your family…may you find a neutral enough meeting place to build a new set of memories…!
Peace,
Shirin
The response from Tom took me a whole different direction than what I was initially thinking about. Konrad and I started our life together about 12 years ago and made it official three years ago when we married in Tucson. When we return to PA he often wants to go places that he and his wife visited before she passed away. Sometimes that’s OK but more often than not it feels like on an intrusion. His wife was a friend of mine … but still … some places hold their memories and I think it is more important to create our own memories in new places. Funny those connections.
My original thought about this question was how I have often longed to have the resources–both time and money–to just get in the car or on a plane and go see friends from years past: childhood friends, high school classmates, college roommates. Being a “Navy brat” we moved a lot and there are friends all over the map I would love to see and visit! It’s quite different here in Pittsburgh where generations of families stay connected in the same neighborhood they grew up in. Maybe they go away for college… but a huge majority return and settle in. For me the once-a-year Christmas card and/or birthday card doesn’t seem like enough the older I get.
Obviously it’s the people over places for me…
Oh, Joyce, thank you for sharing your responses, both to my post and Tom’s reply. Our relations with people can be complicated, even as they are essential to how we live and thrive…. Blessings on navigating the visiting, both with Konrad and with people from prior times in your life. May all the visits bring their gifts…and perhaps video connections bring people without the need to travel…. (I’m doing one of those shortly!)
Peace,
Shirin